It is often difficult to face the reality that our parents, the ones who took care of us, are becoming older and may require assistance in caring for themselves. While we struggle with a range of emotions, many senior adults often feel hesitant allowing their son or daughter to aid them with personal care. If you provide home care for mom or dad, it is important to help them maintain as much dignity and independence as possible, while helping them understand the necessity of the care.
The two most challenging activities of personal care are bathing and toileting. Remember, your parents grew up in an era where both of these have been a very private, personal experience. They may become embarrassed or even resistant when you try to assist with this type of care. Fortunately, there are a few things that can be done to help make your loved one feel more comfortable, safe and secure during personal care activities:
- Offer a bath blanket or towel to cover the front of the body. This will allow your parent to feel less exposed, and may help reduce the anxiety of the event.
- Depending on their physical capability, encourage your parent to assist. Even the smallest task like using a hand held shower can give the sense of some independence.
- Make personal care a positive experience and something to look forward to. By allowing your parent to feel pampered, the feeling of receiving special attention is created, rather than viewing it as an embarrassing activity that is dreaded.
- Always be as gentle to their skin as possible. Scrubbing may cause the skin to tear. Being gentle during personal care is not only beneficial to your parent physically, but provides a more pleasant experience.
While growing older can be a rewarding time for your parents, it can also seem like a time of loss – mostly of independence. By treating your parents with love, respect, and providing reassurance, they will continue to preserve their self-respect, and will feel secure in knowing you are there for them as they age.
If your aging parent or loved one continues to resist your assistance with personal care activities, consider help from a professional caregiver. While many families feel having someone else handle personal care needs would be intrusive for their loved one, some seniors would prefer to have someone outside of the family help with activities such as bathing, dressing and grooming.
For more information about home care services nearest you, contact Home Care Assistance today. Our highly trained and compassionate caregivers always treat their clients with the utmost dignity and respect and are available for help on an as-needed basis. 24 hour home care for seniors in Scottsdale is also available, giving seniors and their families peace of mind that a professional caregiver is always available to ensure safety and comfort. Call 480-448-6215 to schedule a complimentary in-home consultation today.