Making Plans for a Senior Loved One's Funeral

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Planning for an Elderly Loved One’s Funeral

By Ted Holmgren, 9:00 am on March 21, 2016

Preplanning a funeral is likely one of the more difficult tasks you will face when providing Scottsdale senior care for your aging loved one. However, knowing important preferences will be respected can bring your loved one peace of mind. As you initiate the conversation, use these strategies to ease the process of documenting your loved one’s final wishes.

Open Up the Discussion

Broaching the topic of funeral planning can be challenging, but you can choose a strategy that fits your loved one’s personality. If you think your loved one has been anticipating this discussion, then determine a good time to talk about it. If you are worried about his or her reaction, you can break the ice slowly by talking about funeral traditions in your family or one you attended recently.

Focus on the Purpose

Many people initially brush off making funeral plans by saying they do not want a big fuss being made over them. If this happens, explain to your loved one that the purpose of this funeral is to celebrate his or her life while easing the grieving process for friends and the rest of the family. This may encourage your loved one to share his or her preferences. Knowing family and friends will be comforted by the arrangements can serve as motivation for seniors who are initially hesitant about making plans.

Consider Meeting with a Funeral Director

Once your loved one is on board with making arrangements, it may be helpful to contact the funeral home you will be working with. A member of their staff can provide guidance for creating a personalized ceremony that honors your loved one’s life. For example, you may explore options regarding cremation or burial, and then move on to details such as a favorite song your loved one would like to have played during the ceremony. You can also arrange to meet with a member of the clergy if your loved one has religious preferences he or she would like included in the ceremony.

Document the Plans

It is important to remember funeral planning is rarely a one-day conversation. After fully working out the plans, make sure to document them on paper so everyone involved understands what needs to be done. If you have siblings or other family members who will be involved in the service, make sure each one has a copy of the plans. This way, everyone will know his or her role in the preparation.

Planning your loved one’s funeral can be emotionally challenging, but with the right approach you can ensure your loved one’s needs are met without sacrificing your quality time. To help make the most of your time together, consider hiring a professional caregiver from Home Care Assistance. Our caregivers are available 24/7 to assist your loved one with everyday tasks such as bathing, exercise, and cleaning, allowing you time to focus on bonding with your loved one. We also offer specialized Parkinson’s, post-stroke, and Alzheimer’s care Scottsdale seniors and their families can rely on. For more information and to request a free consultation, call 480.448.6215 today.